Dear Abby: Woman wants to redecorate her house but worries husband will veto design decisions

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been with my husband for 10 years. For a long time, I didn’t decorate our house because I didn’t want to spend the money. But for the last few years, I’ve spent many hours poring over Pinterest. I LOVE interior decorating and know exactly how I want each room of the house to look.
The problem is my husband. I once tried to buy a new shower curtain. It was a huge debacle because he didn’t like the one I’d chosen. Abby, I have done my homework. How do I convince my husband to give me free rein in decorating? I’m afraid every paint color and every piece of furniture is going to be an argument, and I’m so discouraged I don’t even try.
We’ve had the same curtains, bedding and dining room table for years, and our house is very ugly. Should I just start making changes without consulting him? Should I sit him down and talk to him? Is it fair of me to not take his preferences into account? — FRUSTRATED CREATIVE
DEAR FRUSTRATED: By all means, discuss this with your husband before making any changes. Under no circumstances should you make any without consulting him. It would be extremely unfair to ignore his opinion. Some compromises will have to be made. The least contentious way to accomplish this would be with the help of a professional decorator who can take both your preferences into account and help you to blend them.
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